“I don’t know who I am underneath everything I’ve had to be.”

Maybe you’ve spent years adapting, pleasing, performing, or trying to be “enough.”

Now something in you is asking for clarity, grounding, and a sense of yourself that feels real.

You might feel disconnected from yourself, unsure of your place in the world, or caught between versions of you that don’t quite fit anymore.

You’re not alone in this.

When identity feels blurred or uncertain

People come to therapy with questions like:

· “Why do I feel different from everyone else?”

· “Who am I when I’m not masking or coping?”

· “Why do I feel like I'm too much, too intense, or too sensitive?

· “Why do I keep losing myself in relationships?”

· “What do I actually want?”

· “Why do I feel like I don’t belong anywhere?”

These aren’t small questions — they’re deeply human ones.

And they often show up during times of transition, burnout, emotional overwhelm, or when old ways of coping stop working.

Identity work is gentle, slow, and grounding

In our sessions, we explore:

· the parts of you that have been hidden or silenced

· the roles you’ve had to play to stay safe or accepted

· the expectations you’ve carried (often quietly, for years)

· the ways you’ve adapted to fit into spaces that didn’t fit you

· the emotions and needs that have been pushed aside

· the version of you that’s trying to emerge now

This isn’t about reinventing yourself.

It’s about making space to discover more of what feels authentic and true for you — beyond the roles, expectations and adaptations you've carried.

Identity and relationships

Sometimes losing touch with yourself happens through relationships. You may find yourself automatically adapting to other people's needs, struggling to know what you want, or feeling responsible for keeping the peace.

In therapy, we can explore these patterns with curiosity and compassion, including the boundaries, needs and sense of self that may have been pushed aside.

For many people, this work overlaps with neurodivergence

You might be exploring:

• late identified or self identified neurodivergence
• masking and the exhaustion that comes with it
• feeling “different” without having the words for why
• emotional intensity or sensitivity
• a lifelong sense of being out of step with others
• exploring whether you may be neurodivergent

Identity work can help you understand your inner world with more compassion and clarity.

You don’t need to have the answers before you begin

You might arrive with:

· confusion

· numbness

· overwhelm

· a sense of being lost

· a quiet feeling that something needs to change

Therapy gives you space to slow down, listen inward, and reconnect with yourself — without pressure, judgement, or expectation.

Practical Details

I offer counselling in person in Greenwich, South East London, as well as online across the UK. You can choose whichever feels more comfortable and accessible for you.

My therapy room is quiet, private, and easy to reach by public transport. If we work together in person, I'll share the full address when we arrange your first session. Online sessions take place via a secure video platform, so you can join from somewhere you feel comfortable and have sufficient privacy.

Sessions last 50 minutes, usually at the same time each week. There's no pressure to commit to a set number of sessions — we'll review the work together regularly and make sure it continues to feel supportive and manageable.

You don't need to know exactly what's wrong before you begin.

If you've been feeling disconnected from yourself, unsure of where you belong, or tired of adapting to what everyone else seems to need from you, therapy can offer a space to start making sense of it.

You're welcome to get in touch to arrange a FREE initial consultation. We can talk about what's been happening and see whether working together feels like the right fit for you.

You may also find these pages helpful

· Counselling for Anxiety

· Counselling for Burnout & Overwhelm

· Counselling for Trauma 

· Neurodivergent Affirming Therapy

· How I work

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